One small step
I don't know if I've talked about this here.
About 3 1/2- 4 years ago (not coincidentally the time I started to post on OT) I had lost my best friend. Not to death or anything tragic like that. Her girlfriend and I couldn't stand each other and her girlfriend made her make a choice between the two of us. Naturally, since L was in love, she chose her GF. It of course was very upsetting to me but I had no choice but to move along in my life.
Last year I found out that L was suffering from breast cancer and I had debated about whether or not to contact her. I did end up doing so just to tell her that I had heard and that Michelle and I were thinking about her. Since then we have had a little bit of contact but not very much.
A couple of months ago she had emailed me with a forwarded email. Nothing personal or anything but it was a form of contact. Which we hadn't had since our parting. The forwarded emails became more frequent and every once in awhile a short note would follow. We were making progress.
One email had said that she has always considered me to be a friend and that she often thought of me but that we were just friends in a different part of our lives. That was all fine with me. I had no bitter feelings. Although Michelle felt that I should. I have been in a position in my life, probably more than once, when I would have given up anything and everything for the one who I loved. I hadn't yet understood that someone who would make me make a choice like that wasn't worth it. But? I've been there. So I couldn't judge her for her decision.
Recently L has been in more contact with me and on a personal note. She has sent me updates on herself, her daughter (who is in the Army and in Iraq) and her Giants Baseball schedule. Hah, that sounds funny.
So the purpose of this entry... L and I are going to hook up and go to a couple of games together. We just confirmed today. Michelle has season tickets so she got me tickets for the same dates that L has tickets.
So yay. After all of these years, L and I are going to hang out together again. It gave me a little bit more hope that not ALL in life was sucky and bad. *grin*
About 3 1/2- 4 years ago (not coincidentally the time I started to post on OT) I had lost my best friend. Not to death or anything tragic like that. Her girlfriend and I couldn't stand each other and her girlfriend made her make a choice between the two of us. Naturally, since L was in love, she chose her GF. It of course was very upsetting to me but I had no choice but to move along in my life.
Last year I found out that L was suffering from breast cancer and I had debated about whether or not to contact her. I did end up doing so just to tell her that I had heard and that Michelle and I were thinking about her. Since then we have had a little bit of contact but not very much.
A couple of months ago she had emailed me with a forwarded email. Nothing personal or anything but it was a form of contact. Which we hadn't had since our parting. The forwarded emails became more frequent and every once in awhile a short note would follow. We were making progress.
One email had said that she has always considered me to be a friend and that she often thought of me but that we were just friends in a different part of our lives. That was all fine with me. I had no bitter feelings. Although Michelle felt that I should. I have been in a position in my life, probably more than once, when I would have given up anything and everything for the one who I loved. I hadn't yet understood that someone who would make me make a choice like that wasn't worth it. But? I've been there. So I couldn't judge her for her decision.
Recently L has been in more contact with me and on a personal note. She has sent me updates on herself, her daughter (who is in the Army and in Iraq) and her Giants Baseball schedule. Hah, that sounds funny.
So the purpose of this entry... L and I are going to hook up and go to a couple of games together. We just confirmed today. Michelle has season tickets so she got me tickets for the same dates that L has tickets.
So yay. After all of these years, L and I are going to hang out together again. It gave me a little bit more hope that not ALL in life was sucky and bad. *grin*
posted by Bravie at 2:19 PM
43 Comments:
Great news, Bravie. I know this has been a sad part of your life and I'm glad you get to spend time with her. Hope you have a great time, and that this is the start of many more times together.
Good to hear. *smooch*
Thrilled to hear the news Bravie. Losing best friends is extremely painful. I'm so glad you both have reconnected. Life is way too short.
*smooch*
That is great! I'm happy for you...especially with all the craziness and svckiness going on these days.
But...where is L's girlfriend in all of this?
Yep, thank you, it is good news.
As for her GF? I have to assume that either they are not together anymore or she is coming around to the idea of me and L having some sort of contact.
When we first started having contact again, L told me that she would never hide anything or lie to A. And knowing L as well as I once did, unless she has completely changed, I don't see her doing that. And I probably wouldn't want to hook up with her again if she were. Just because I don't want to be the cause of any problems in their lives.
Have I mentioned that I like you.
*smooch*
How fantastic! So happy for you. *smooch*
Yay! It's hard when you lose your way in a great friendship due to love. I know, I've been on both ends. For me, the time that hurt the most was the time *I* was the leaver and not the leavee. Of course, I've been given a second chance to mend things and reap the benefits of such an awesome pal.
I am happy for you. I 'm soo loving Mich right now. She's been so damned amazing about all your weirdo friends! This summer will be a blast for you...baseball,reconnecting with friends, hotdogs & beer at the game, and your strange group of pals here! Woohoo!
I love you, Carey! You're true blue and I just can't think of anything better!
That's wonderful, Carey! I hope you have a nice, happy reconnect.
So now i feel bad about posting druink your bolg.
Wlell, maybe not.
Bob is cheating because she editts her typos.
Just some advance warning. I type faster than shed oes, even drunk
I feel bad coming into a serious post and calling Coco a poopoohead, but hey, sometimes a girls gotta do what a girls gotta do.
See? four posts to her one.
Okay, I am oing to tickle you for apostrophe abuse.
This is a cancer/friendship blog. I cannot believe you are being so disrespectful.
poopoohead
Evil Bob clawed me.
Bob is so graet
Yeah except when she steals my comutyer. What a rat.
Damn drunks!
*smooch* to the blond(e)
I think it's so great that you have an opportunity to reconnect with your friend - and even better that you're taking it! It hurts to lose a friend but it feels really, really good to build that friendship up again.
Plus, you get to go to the ballgames! A bad day at the ballgame is better that the best day at work. (Or something like that.)
I thought it was poodepoohead.
What a couple of drunks. *shakes head* I bet they have headaches today. *giggle*
Froody, you are so right. And a little pat on my own back because taking this step is HUGE for me. I have always been the type to burn bridges and to never look back once a friendship has ended. I feel good about myself for the simple fact that I am overcoming that trait. and with any luck, I'll get to have a friendship again with someone who was very important to me at one time. What that friendship will be remains to be seen but at least we are both taking steps. :)
I tend to burn bridge, too. My big sarcastic mouth gets me into trouble that I can't get out of, sometimes.
My sarcastic mouth, my stubborness and my ability to not forgive are usually what get me.
It's about time you have some good news. See? Life isn't all bad.
*pokes head into blog*
Hi Bravie. Glad your life is getting more "positivity".
:-)
Did you come in here to poop like you did in Kim's blog? *squinty eyes*
Poop? Who me?
*blink blink*
It's not fiar that you don't have a blog for us to poop in.
How did we go from happy friend reunion to poop? I must have missed something. *shakes head*
By the way, has anyone seen the can of Oust that Augie normally chases after Bravie with?
pfffft. Don't look at me. It's the Clown's fault. She pooped in Kim's blog and then brought her poopyass over here. She probably hid all of the OUST.
I think the clown needs a blog, too. I need to get to know her better.
Kim told me that she is a VERY serious person. *grin*
There are none more serious than I, really. No, really. I'm totally serious, I swear. Honestly.
That's what Kim told me. She said that you have this awful sense of humor and that someone needed to teach you to laugh more.
Yeah. I'll believe that when I start believing that Bravie drinks tainted milk at church on Saturdays.
Hey, I have witnesses that have seen me drink my tainted milk. Hrmph.
I've seen pictures of the after effects. Just never in church.
I'm thrilled to hear this, Carey. Reuniting with old friends is a wonderful thing.
*smooch*
there is nothing more satisfying than rekindling old friendships. i'm very happy for you.
I'm so glad you have reconnected a friendship. My best friend in college (and we were maid of honor's at each others wedding) have had a pretty difficult relationship in the past few years. In the last year we've at least been able to reconcile somewhat. I think these moments are important. She'll never again be my best friend and confidant but hopefully we can at least be good friends again. Here's a hug {hug] just because.
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