Need Advice
Are we just being asshole neighbors?
Backstory. When we bought our townhouse (attached on one side) we had nice neighbors. They had to move because the unit was sold. In moved two lesbians and their son. We were excited to have gay neighbors. Stop the music. We didn't know that they were crack addicts who were up all night and complete slobs. They would call us at all times asking for favors. Like, would we come over at midnight on a work night to help pick up their friend who was passed out on the floor. Um, no. When they finally moved, so did the rats. Temporarily.
Then in moved two single guys. And their two 100lb dogs. Who shit all the time (the dogs) out on the front patio. Leaving a stench by our front door and flies. They were also marble fabricators and electric guitar players. Both of which they did in the living room which is attached to our house. Imagine the noise. We nicely approached them about the noise, oh, and the mess. Not to mention the mess in our ajoining carport. Long story short, they were homophobic and we ended up having to get restraining orders against them and they finally ended up moving.
Then we got a nice family. Mom, Dad, three kids all under age 10 and their three pitbulls. Did I mention that the only yard there is, is a 12 by 14 cement patio? Imagine the mess and the noise. He wal also an ultimate cage fighter who practiced, you guessed it, in the attached living room. Basically, again, no peace and quiet around our house. They eventually were evicted after one of the pits bit a neighbors dog.
Next, and the current tenants, were three girls. Two sisters and their cousin. Nice people. Not the cleanest of people though.
We like to take pride in where we live and we keep everything up all nice and neat. Ask Glow and Jen. They've been here.
Anyhow, the three soon turned into 5 which then ended up being 7 people living next door. Still, very nice people.
Last night four more people showed up. They were using my driveway as a basketball court. I have no hoop. But they were shooting towards my balcony. Which is attached to my very expensive, sliding glass door. They were also using my very white garage door as something to bounce their ball off of. *sigh* Now my garage has black ball marks all over it.
Michelle called earlier and said that yet four more people have showed up. I'm guessing for the four day weekend. So there are about 16 or so of them there now.
That's fine. I have no problem with that. When I got home today, I tried to pull up into my carport but couldn't because the kids toys were spread all about. I just wanted to get home and crawl onto the couch because I don't feel well. I left my car parked in the driveway.
I am hoping the will deter them from using my driveway as their playground.
Am I an asshole for not wanting them to throw the ball against my garage door. And to worry about my car being dented in the carport. and about them tossing the ball onto my side of the building?
Normally, I don't give a shit and I would say something. But based on my history with neighbors, I really don't want to rock the boat with them.
so what do I do. suck it up and let them dirty up my house and possibly dent my car? Or do I try to nicely approach them and ask them to get the fuck off of my property? Perhaps in a friendlier fashion. Have people just lost all respect for other people's possesions and I should just deal with it? *sigh* I really just want to live quietly in my little house and not be bothered.
Backstory. When we bought our townhouse (attached on one side) we had nice neighbors. They had to move because the unit was sold. In moved two lesbians and their son. We were excited to have gay neighbors. Stop the music. We didn't know that they were crack addicts who were up all night and complete slobs. They would call us at all times asking for favors. Like, would we come over at midnight on a work night to help pick up their friend who was passed out on the floor. Um, no. When they finally moved, so did the rats. Temporarily.
Then in moved two single guys. And their two 100lb dogs. Who shit all the time (the dogs) out on the front patio. Leaving a stench by our front door and flies. They were also marble fabricators and electric guitar players. Both of which they did in the living room which is attached to our house. Imagine the noise. We nicely approached them about the noise, oh, and the mess. Not to mention the mess in our ajoining carport. Long story short, they were homophobic and we ended up having to get restraining orders against them and they finally ended up moving.
Then we got a nice family. Mom, Dad, three kids all under age 10 and their three pitbulls. Did I mention that the only yard there is, is a 12 by 14 cement patio? Imagine the mess and the noise. He wal also an ultimate cage fighter who practiced, you guessed it, in the attached living room. Basically, again, no peace and quiet around our house. They eventually were evicted after one of the pits bit a neighbors dog.
Next, and the current tenants, were three girls. Two sisters and their cousin. Nice people. Not the cleanest of people though.
We like to take pride in where we live and we keep everything up all nice and neat. Ask Glow and Jen. They've been here.
Anyhow, the three soon turned into 5 which then ended up being 7 people living next door. Still, very nice people.
Last night four more people showed up. They were using my driveway as a basketball court. I have no hoop. But they were shooting towards my balcony. Which is attached to my very expensive, sliding glass door. They were also using my very white garage door as something to bounce their ball off of. *sigh* Now my garage has black ball marks all over it.
Michelle called earlier and said that yet four more people have showed up. I'm guessing for the four day weekend. So there are about 16 or so of them there now.
That's fine. I have no problem with that. When I got home today, I tried to pull up into my carport but couldn't because the kids toys were spread all about. I just wanted to get home and crawl onto the couch because I don't feel well. I left my car parked in the driveway.
I am hoping the will deter them from using my driveway as their playground.
Am I an asshole for not wanting them to throw the ball against my garage door. And to worry about my car being dented in the carport. and about them tossing the ball onto my side of the building?
Normally, I don't give a shit and I would say something. But based on my history with neighbors, I really don't want to rock the boat with them.
so what do I do. suck it up and let them dirty up my house and possibly dent my car? Or do I try to nicely approach them and ask them to get the fuck off of my property? Perhaps in a friendlier fashion. Have people just lost all respect for other people's possesions and I should just deal with it? *sigh* I really just want to live quietly in my little house and not be bothered.
posted by Bravie at 3:24 PM
34 Comments:
It's your property, your home, your car, your carport. Hell yeah ask them to stop bouncing, littering, shitting, etc in your space.
Are they renters? Can you contact the landlord? If they are the owners I think there have got to be city ordinances against that many people living in a dwelling built for an average sized family (4 adults at the most is what most townhouses are made for).
The longer you let them get away with it, the more and worse they will do.
Sorry you have to deal with this.
*hugs*
And NO, you are not asshole neighbors. They are the assholes.
I agree that we shouldn't have to put up with it. They are renters, btw.
I normally don't have a problem saying something. It's just my fear that we will end up in a feud with yet another neighbor and then we end up looking like the trouble. We are freak magnets when it comes to neightbors.
I mean, we have had the Vietnam Vet who used to yell obsceneties at 2am. Taling about slitting throats and whatnot. We had the neighbor who supposedly was being attacked. Come to find out, she was stabbing herself and claiming to be attacked. We had the girl who would break into our house and on her final break in, let our dog loose and the dog was hit and killed on the freeway. We get all the nuts and dolts.
I think the additional 47 people are just here for the long weekend. I hope.
I skeeeeert. They are big Tongan people and lots of them. *shakes in corner* Not the kind of people who you want as an enemy.
Sistah Augie, please protect me.
Okay. In the one minute since I responded to you, I re read what you wrote and you're right. It is my house and my property. and if they do it again tonight, I am definitely going to say something.
Thank you. *smooch*
Augie is absolutely right. And yes, people have lost all respect for other people's possessions and property. I have neighbors that party late into the night. Outside in their own yards with loud people and loud music. It drives me cahraazy. But I rationalize that it doesn't happen all the time and when we have outside parties, I don't want people bitching at me. Of course, my outside parties wouldn't be at midnight on a work/school night. ugh. I can't imagine my walls being attached to somebody else's. I threw up a little just thinking about it.
Yes, you should say something but I don't think you should wait for something else to happen. Just be polite, Sunshine. Tell them you're not trying to be an asshole, you don't have a problem with them having GUESTS, but could they please not play on your side of the driveway/carport.
*smooooooooch*
Oh. Yes, your house is very neat and if it's any consolation, I didn't notice anybody else's noise other than our own. *grin*
*sits with the other smart peeps and nods in total agreement*
I'm sorry you've had to go through this many moron neighbors. :(
Next time I buy a house, it's going to be out in the middle of the woods with no neighbors for miles!
No, you are not an asshole. I agree with Augie.
*smooch*
Nope. Your definitly not an asshole. I would park and block them and thrown away the toys.
You definitely have every right to ask them to get off your property and not mess up your stuff.
Since they're renters, you may also want to let their landlord know, since goodness only knows what they've done inside that townhouse.
After 4 years of apartment dwelling, I can deal with just about anything, but like you, we always seem to get crazy neighbors! When we first moved in, there was what seemed like a lovely middle aged couple living beside us (apt. B). After a few months though, DH and I decided they were selling drugs because a)random 20-something guys would knock on their door at 2:00 am and b)cops pounded on their door several Sunday mornings. They were replaced by a couple with a super noisy yippy dog. She clearly hated living here too and they argued pretty often. Meanwhile, underneath them (apt. A) were two young guys and a girl who thought nothing of going mudding with their trucks in the huge field behind our apartment and dragging mud all though our parking lot. Those were diesel trucks btw, which means they'd crank them up at like 5:00 am to warm them up. What a lovely alarm clock. They were eventually evicted. The couple underneath us (apt. D) for 2+ years aruged constantly, although they were always very nice to us. They just moved out a few months ago.
Currently we've actually lucked out in neighbors. The people in A are super nice. They have a smoker on their back patio and every few months they smoke a bunch of chickens and they always give us one. The single mom in D is very nice and rarely home, the only beef I have with her is she can't park in the center of her parking spot and is always right up on my car. (I think she needs to downsize from her Expedition.) B is an interesting character though. He's a "preacher" who is almost never home. When he finally comes home at 3 am, he usually decides that's a good time to vacuum. He also has ladies coming in and out. Still, it's much more peaceful up here than it used to be.
Update:
All was good and quiet last night.
When Michelle got home, she kicked their ball down the street. *snort* How mature of her. LMAO
And that's normally something that I would do and then get yelled at by her for doing. Bad Michelle.
I agree 100% with Augie. And I would grab a bucket and a magic eraser, march over there, grab a kid and say *points at garage* see what your bouncing ball did. Please clean it up. *hands over bucket and magic eraser* Ok, maybe I wouldn't grab a kid. But I would ask that they acknowledge what they did and ask them politely to not do it again.
Okay, first off, what you really need is a nice, quiet, HOA.
*giggles*
No, I don't think you are an asshole. I agree with Augie of course.
Good for Michelle!
Holy Carp! I can't believe how many crappy neighbors you've had to deal with.
No, you are definitely not an a'hole.
I always hated apartment living and I couldn't live in a townhouse. I hate noise.
I sure hope that all the people are just there because of the holiday. If they do stick around afterwards, I'd definitely contact the landlord.
First off, let me empathize with you. Bad neighbors SUCK!!! Gawd, is there anything worse? Maybe TEE...
Anyway, you are in no way shape or form an asshole. In fact, you are way more tolerant than I am. I would have had an absolute FVCKING FIT about the marks on the garage door. I also would have taken pictures of the marks for future ammunition. I just can't f'ing stand people who think the world belongs to them and have no respect for other people's property and belongings. Grrrrr.
No advise, since my closest neighbour is about a mile and a half away. But I do remember living in town, and hating having the weirdo factor move in next door, so I can sympathize and offer my emotional support anyway.
Of course, there is a place about five miles from my house for rent if you are interested.
Hm. Neighbors. I have those. They live about 2 acres away. One set is a bunch of crackheads - or at least, that's my theory. No one who is sober could be that bizarre. Another set is a husband and wife who are nice. He gets drunk and rides his golf cart around. Across the street is a single older Mexican man. My only complaint with him is that he mows his yard without a shirt on. Ick. And the family behind us is nice.
Oh, and you aren't assholes. You should say something. Or crash the party. Whichever.
You are an asshole, but not because of this. *grin*
Tell those fuckers to get the fucking fuck away from your shit!
He gets drunk and rides his golf cart around.
This to me is the PERFECT way to spend a day. No shit!
I mean how much fun would that be?! I actually wanted to arrive to my wedding in a golf cart. Fun!
But did you want to arrive at your wedding, topless on the golf cart? *giggle*
*whacks* Jen.
I want to be your neighbor, Momma. I'll keep my shirt on.
LOL Momma. I just saw something on the news last night about some guy who gets drunk and drives his riding mower around the neighborhood. Only problem is, he drives it over their lawns LOL.
I think a Respect My Property please is in order. I dont care if people want to fuck up their own shit but when they decide they're gonna fuck up mine, that's when I get pissed and I dont get pissed very often.
Tell them that you work hard to keep your doors white and your car dent free and you would appreciate if they kept all their activities to their house and yard.
LOL. There are so many ways to go with this....
Of course you're not being asshole neighbors.
Okay, I have about 20 sarcastic, rude, insulting things I want to say, but I'm on overload. I'll settle on a fe things and get back to you.
*smooch*
*smooch* <-- that one's for Michelle :-)
Back off my girlfriend, mister. *grabs Michelle and runs from MTW*
Waaaaaaaaaaaah. Ya'll love Michelle more than you love me. *pout*
*grabs Carey and runs*
*not sure what to do with her*
*reads handbook*
*skips chapter 4*
*considers chapter 6*
*or 9*
*grin*
*runs in*
*grabs MM, Carey and the handbook*
*runs to the sextoy shop*
*grin*
I'd go insane with neighbors again. I don't have any patience. I of course think you are completely justified in your impatience with the basketball throwing, etc.
The least they could have done was let you know what was going on, and to come over if you noticed anything they should be aware of...
They are the assholes. Say something.
Hell yes you have every right to be upset about this. You and Michelle have put a lot of work into your place and you shouldn't have to worry about your property being effed up by some disrespectful neighbors.
If they don't respect their own living quarters, that's one thing. But they dont' have to take yours down with them in the process.
I'd be a huge bitch and screw talking to the neighbors. I'd call the fucking owner of the property and make THEM deal with it.
*smooch*
Hi there. I didn't read the other comments, but you are well within your rights to tell them to stop. They are rude and inconsiderate to use your property to play basketball. We have had similar trouble with the kids across the street hitting their orange hockey balls off our big front window. Or retrieving them from under our car by bashing all around the car with their hockey sticks.
Be nice if you feel like you need to keep the peace, but chances are that unless you say something, they're not going to suddenly come to their senses and realise that they are rude and inconsiderate. And they'll just continue to damage your property, which they have no right to do.
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